Saturday, April 27, 2013
QueensNYCMom10:27:00 PMand Dating, boyfriend, Cancer, children, Death, Divorce, god, kids, Marriage, remarriage 5 comments
Imagine coming back from a family vacation and your husband telling you he is leaving you. Well this is exactly what happened to Lorena Bathey in her book, Happy Beginnings: How I Became My Own Fairy Godmother.
It is about getting divorce after 11 years of marriage. How to find and love yourself again. Married friends you thought were friends turn on you as they believe you will try to take there husbands. Yup, evening in our 30's its like being in high school again. You see who your real friends are and how strong a woman you are inside. Lorena shows you that being alone is alright.
My favorite parts in the book are:
Pg. 154 "This change in my life had happened so I could find not a new man, but so I could find a new woman - me." (This should be a woman's motto)
Pg. 160 "I needed to start anew making my own celebrations." ..."Our celebrations would have to be separate. It was not up to me to create fun for him. I was not responsible for how he handled his life. I was only responsible for my children and myself."
Pg. 167 "Women today are supposed to be it all. We must have the cleanest house, the best dressed kids, and we should be thin and beautiful. We must have a wonderful marriage, our dog should be adequately walked, and our children should be excelling at school. We should never tire. We should be able to talk about politics at the drop of a hat. And we should satisfy every sexual whim of our husband. All this is on a very low intake level of sleep, affection, caressing, communication, or pats on the back." (Now I know I am not the only woman who feels this way)
The coolest part is she started a support group for divorce women and anyone can join even if they are married. A community for women to support and learn from one another. I have to be honest when I applied to review this book I thought it was for kids. I wanted it so I could read a bedtime story to them. I based it on the cover because of the fairy. That is not gonna happen now. This book is truly a fairy tale closely resembling our own lives. It shows that when you look in the mirror you should be happy with what you see and love yourself. If not, you can change it so you will be happy. It is like taking your old living room and putting a new coat of paint on your walls. Wa-la (Wand in hand) a new living room. Something so simple that can change and brighten your outlook.
I would recommend this book to anyone going through a divorce. It is insightful and heartwarming. You can purchase Happy Beginning on Amazon.
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Disclaimer: I received one of the products mentioned above for free. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers.